Here's the truth: dating while divorcing with young kids is complicated. It's complicated, and messy, and full of panicky meltdowns where you turn the manual sideways and wonder if you're actually doing it all wrong. But surprisingly, despite the enormous amount of people in this position, my recent Google searches on dating with kids post-divorce have turned up next to nothing on the subject. There are lots of lists, of course, indicating the appropriate time to introduce your new partner to your children and how to do so smoothly. But I couldn't find any brutally honest testimonials describing the way to be both a single mom and a girlfriend without screwing everything and everyone up in the process.
Dating a single mom: what you should know and why it's wonderful
A Guide to Single Parent Dating | Parents
Being a single parent is not an easy role. From sleep issues to tantrums to potty training, you have to tackle every arduous aspect of parenting on your own. Through this role, you learn just how much you are capable of and give your child the ultimate representation of a role model. You read books on how to give birth and how to breastfeed, but learning how to date when you have a child seems much more complicated.
A Guide to Single Parent Dating
I feel like we hear a lot of dating horror stories. And believe me, there's a couple reasons for that. First of all, they're more entertaining. Secondly, we share those stories as cautionary tales to warn each other of the dangers and douche bags -- helpful especially to us single moms who are dating after years of being off the shelf. When I started dating again after 16 zoiks!
She's smart, strong, and beautiful, but also a bit of a mystery. How can you make this relationship work? And how do you let her know that you're not just playing games—without getting overly involved too soon?